WHY IT IS HARD TO LET HIM GO EVEN WHEN YOU DON’T LOVE HIM ANYMORE

It is very common in today’s world to still find one’s self attached to an ex-lover long after the feelings of love is dead. It is one thing to fall in love; it is another thing to stay in love. It is yet another thing to fall out of love when things probably don’t work out as envisioned. While falling in love is easy, staying in love is certainly not a walkover. But the hardest part is falling out of love. Many people find themselves stuck to someone they don’t love anymore, and they can’t seem to understand why. Well, this article will tell you why; and point you in the direction of what to do.

1. FEAR OF THE UNKNOWN: One reason why you find it hard to walk away from an affair you no longer derive pleasure from is the sheer fear of the unknown. A popular saying holds that “the devil you know is better than the angel you don’t know.” So you find yourself not desiring him anymore but can’t walk away because you are unsure what events the unknown has in store for you. But then, many who have such fears end up falling prey to them. Today’s decision should never be influenced by fear of the unknown. What is worth doing is worth doing well, your fears notwithstanding. Therefore, if love so fades in your affair to the point where you can’t endure it anymore, simply walk away. The unknown will take care of itself.

2. YOU STILL CARE ABOUT HIS FEELINGS: Another tricky reason you can’t just walk away from him even after your love for him is gone is that you care about his feelings. As humans with a good conscience, we often sit to consider the effect of our actions and decisions on others. When a woman finds herself in this position, it becomes difficult for her to walk away. While this may be a testament to a woman’s humaneness, it will only keep her glued to an undesirable spot for so long. Have it at the back of your head that in life, you can’t please everyone all the time. It is good to care about people’s feelings. But you know what’s better than other people’s feelings? The answer is simply: YOUR OWN FEELINGS.

3. LACK OF SELF-CONFIDENCE (IMMATURITY): It appears like some women call it quits with a man for the fun of it, after which they come running back into the affair. This is common in women with low self-esteem as well as immature and unstable women. It is not strange to see women get jealous of seeing a man they had dumped going out with another woman. Sometimes they take shots at the other woman in a bid to scare the women away and take back the man they had left. Such actions are inspired by feelings of insecurity and plain immaturity, and the cure is enlightenment, such as afforded by this article.

4. MATERIAL BENEFITS: Whenever material benefit is mentioned, what comes to mind is the hilarious saying that “money makes even the ugliest of men to become sexually appealing.” The truth is that not everyone is in a relationship on account of love and genuine feelings of romance. Many women are in an affair for what they can get from the man. This is why it becomes hard to walk away from a man even after the little love you had for him has vanished. Since love can’t pay bills, it is better to stick around and reap the benefits, even if at the expense of your happiness. The cure is simply: shun GREED!

5. SEX BENEFITS: In a world where many women are obsessed with big dicks and good sex, it is hard to let go of a man who is heavily endowed, much less if he’s good in bed too. Not knowing if her next catch will be capable of affording her the desired sexual satisfaction, a woman would rather stick around a sex freak she doesn’t love anymore until she finds another sex freak who she actually loves. In other cases, she may move on to another man (who she may actually love). But then, she somehow finds herself creeping back to an ex-lover who has seemingly mastered the art of good sex. 

6. YOU DON'T KNOW WHAT LOVE IS: Many people who profess love do not actually know what love is. Love is more than a feeling. Love is a deliberate, mindful, sacrificial, endless action. Since many people only know love to be all about emotional sensations, they tend to confusingly go back and forth; as tossed by their wavering emotions. Whenever they think they are in love, they stick around. When it seems like the feeling is fading, they runoff. If after running off, the emotions catch up with them again, they come running back again. They simply don’t know what love is, so it hampers their emotional stability.

7. FEAR OF PUBLIC OPINIONS: This is common with folks who have been acclaimed to be lovers in the order of Romeo and Juliet. But hey, the story of Romeo and Juliet didn’t really have a happy ending, did it? So, it doesn’t matter who doesn’t get a clear picture of why you’re walking away, you don’t have to stick with an undesired man in an effort to pacify an uncaring public. You have the final say over your life. So you can’t afford to monkey around and let the public call the shots for you!

8. EITHER YOU DON'T KNOW YOUR WORTH/VALUE OR YOU TOTALLY LACK THEM: Your YES should be YES and your NO should be NO. Losing love and affection for a man without being able to walk away from him is a clear indication that you don’t know your worth and value. It could also imply that you lack worth and value, ultimately. The way around this is to get to know your worth and value. That way, you get to filter the men you allow into your life; one of which should be the one you will never lose love and affection for.

So that’s it, guys! The inability to fall out of love accounts for the many emotional traumas that plagues mankind today. It is the reason for emotional damages here and there. So, while delightfully falling in love and doing your bid to stay in love, keep in mind that a time might come when you may have to fall out of love. In times like that (if it ever comes), refer to this article and receive the boost you need to walk away, especially if the affair is no good any longer.