7 WAYS TO KNOW YOU HAVE ANGER ISSUES AND WHAT TO DO TO SOLVE IT

The world will agree with me that anger has been the bane of many promising affairs, marriages, etc. I mean, after a series of lovey-dovey moments shared with a significant other, the one thing that could step in and ruin everything is that monster called “anger”. A lot of ex-couples owe their divorces to anger. The case is no different with ex-lovers who could not simply cut down on their ego but rather let anger tear them apart.

The sad part of the whole anger brouhaha is that the people plagued with anger issues can hardly tell that they are, as their anger-based actions and decisions always seem to them like the “way to go.” Even when reality hits them after a detrimental anger-based action or decision, they still cannot bring themselves to drop the habit. It becomes more like a strong virus that cannot be removed by even the most renowned antivirus programs. But I’ve got good news for you!

Just as the saying goes that “a problem known is half solved,” the case is no different with anger. In solving anger issues, the first step to take is to acknowledge that you’ve got anger issues, and you are 50% down the path of getting rid of that monster! In this piece, I will be pointing out seven ways to determine whether or not you have anger issues, and then I will go further to point out seven ways in which anger issues can be gotten rid of. Let us begin!


1. THE NUMBER OF PEOPLE YOU HAVE ISSUES WITH IN A DAY: It is possible to spend 24 hours without falling out with someone. However, as easy as that may seem, it is nothing but a myth to many people walking the earth. If you discover that you easily fall out with others, there’s a high possibility that you have anger issues. For instance, if on a scale of 1 – 10 you go above average, chances are: you do have it.

2. HOW MANY TIMES YOU HAVE DIFFERENT ISSUES WITH THE SAME PERSON IN A DAY: Another way to dictate anger issues lies in the number of times you fall out with one person in a day. Whether at work, school, or home, do you notice you clash with certain folks more than once, twice, or even thrice in a day? If yes, you’ve got anger issues.

3. YOU ALWAYS FEEL YOU ARE RIGHT IN YOUR OPINION ALL THE TIME AND GET PISSED IF PEOPLE GO CONTRARY TO YOUR OPINION: This one is super common. Certain folks can’t even stand the voicing of another person’s opinion, as they deem themselves Mr. or Mrs. right at all times. Anything contrary to their ideas and opinion gets them boiling and eventually exploding. The reason is simple: ANGER!

4. WHAT IS THE COMPLAINT RATE? DO PEOPLE COMPLAIN OFTEN ABOUT YOUR TEMPERAMENT? It is said that “how we view ourselves is of little consequence. But then, how others perceive us is important. If people who perceive you from afar have had a few ill things to say about your temperament, chances are that you have anger issues. Even the bible says that “from the mouth of two to three witnesses, a matter is established.”

5. WHAT IS THE USUAL RESULT FROM ISSUES YOU HAVE WITH PEOPLE? DOES IT TEAR OR BUILD THEM UP? One sure thing about anger is that it produces nothing healthy. Therefore, if your issues with people always end up tearing them down rather than build them up (even when you think you are right), you indeed have anger issues.

6. DO YOU TRY TO CORRECT EVERYONE ALL THE TIME? Those who act this way usually have an inflated idea of self-importance. They can simply be called “proud.” But doesn’t pride breed anger and vice versa?

7. DO YOU FEEL BAD OR REGRET YOUR ACTIONS AFTER YOU HAVE HAD ISSUES WITH PEOPLE? This is a quite common and very familiar experience in the world of people who get angry often. If you find yourself in this position often, it simply shows that the causes of the issues you had with those people were not consequent upon rational thinking. Rather, they were based on irrational thinking, triggered by anger.

Having surveyed those seven ways of dictating anger issues, let’s now examine seven practical ways to solve anger issues once and for all. They include:

1. ADMIT YOU HAVE IT: As earlier said; “a problem known is half solved. Therefore, in solving anger problems, the first thing you must do is to admit that you have anger problems.

2. DECIDE TO BE A SOURCE OF INSPIRATION AND HAPPINESS TO OTHERS: True success doesn’t like in the amount of wealth one amasses in his or her lifetime, or the number of trips one embarks on, or the luxury one enjoys. Rather, it lies in the number of lives on touches before kissing life goodbye. In trying to leave behind such a legacy, you ultimately weaken the hormones that trigger anger until anger ends up becoming a myth in your life.

3. IN THE EVENT OF ISSUES, STAY CALM: The effectiveness of staying calm under pressure cannot be overemphasized. Hence, by simply staying calm in the event of issues, you ultimately suspend anger.

4. REFUSE TO SAY ANYTHING NEGATIVE OR ABUSIVE TO WHOEVER IS INVOLVED: The tongue may be a double-edged sword. However, it is not without control. Therefore, watching your tongue to see that it doesn’t spill out negative energy (such that you wouldn’t appreciate it if spilled on you), will ultimately suppress anger.

5. DON'T BE REACTIVE: It is common with humans to react to a stimulus. But then, in dealing with anger issues, you should discipline yourself enough to not react to any anger-breeding stimulus.

6. BE PROACTIVE: What makes a man is his ability to control every situation around him. Therefore, endeavor to be proactive enough to control situations by causing something to happen rather than waiting to respond to something after it happens. That way, you cause joy and the likes to happen; and never anger.

7. CULTIVATE THE POWER OF POSITIVE THINKING: Every affair of life comes from the mind. Once you win the battle of the mind, you win the battle of life. Cultivating the power of positive thinking is just a summary of it all. Think love, think joy, and most especially, THINK PEACE!

So, so, so, there you have it! There are no doubts that with this piece of awareness, the reign of anger has in the lives of many of its sufferers has seen an end. If there is more you would like to know about this topic or you have a question you would like to ask, kindly air them out in the comment box. I’m here for you!