SHOULD WE HAVE STANDARDS FOR A DESIRED SPOUSE OR SETTLE WITH GOD'S CHOICE FOR US???

BETWEEN SETTING A STANDARD FOR A DESIRED SPOUSE & LETTING GOD CONNECT YOU TO A SUITABLE SPOUSE, WHICH IS THE WAY TO GO???

We all have the kind of spouse we desire to marry. For some of us, it's the tall, rich, and handsome brother who speaks fluently. For others, it's that eye-candy sister who takes every guy's breath away when she stands out to address an audience.

It's cool to have standards. But is it cool to set standards for a desired spouse? Think about it, Adam had no idea what Eve would look like, neither did Eve know what Adam would look like.

But on beholding his God ordained & divinely connected spouse, he set a standard for her there and then. The standard was: "This is now bone of my bones, and flesh of my flesh: she shall be called Woman, because she was taken out of Man. (Genesis 2:23 KJV)."

Until Adam met Eve, he had no idea what she was going to look like or be like, same as Eve. That's because the base of their meeting was GOD'S DIVINE CONNECTION. Setting a standard for a desired spouse could reflect a lack of trust in God to divinely connect you to a spouse SUITABLE FOR YOU. (Genesis 2:18).



I think the best union is a union set up by God himself. All we have to do is ALIGN OURSELVES WITH GOD'S WILL AND PURPOSE for our lives and marriages, and PRAY like our marital destinies depend on it because to be sincere, IT DOES.

God is more interested in HIS PURPOSE FOR A MARRIAGE than in the couples' personal self gratification which is usually a function of selfishness. And selfishness is largely responsible for most marital shambles.

On the other hand, marriage stands firm on the wings of pure & genuine selflessness. I'd say there's a thin line between standards and selfishness because nothing about standards is favorable to the other party.

It's always about the party setting the standards. Of the truth, God's choice for us may not always be in tune with our desires. But at the end, we would be angry at God if He hadn't connected us to that seemingly inadequate & undesirable partner who usually turns out to be nothing short of the best for us.

God knows better. I bet Abraham would not have opted to marry Sarah if he as much as suspected she wouldn't bear him a child (delay God's promise to him) until he was 100 years of age. But today, Abraham is called the FATHER OF ALL NATIONS.

That wouldn't have been possible without the one-time barren Sarah. God's ways are not our ways, same as His thoughts. Our standards can only hinder the EXPECTED END He has in store for us. Marriage is all about SACRIFICE, and the first sacrifice we may have to make may be ACCEPTING GOD'S CHOICE OF SPOUSE FOR US, no matter how undesirable they may seem.

Howbeit, there might be a couple of us who hold a strong conviction that SETTING A STANDARD FOR A DESIRED SPOUSE is the way to go. Feel free to drive your point across if you're one. I could be wrong in my assertion. But if you think I'm actually saying something here, concur with a THUMBS UP & KUDOS remark.

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