THE MINDSET EVERY SINGLE LADY SHOULD HAVE

Single ladies, a man is not a financial plan. A relationship is not a pension scheme. Marriage is not a retirement plan. If your primary need from a man is financial help, N1,000,000 from him will seem to you like God is saying the man is His beloved son. A new car from him will confirm his spirituality, and a big house will automatically make him the will of God for your life and destiny.

Who says you can't work smart and hard and buy a car for yourself as a single lady? It's easy to mistake financial help for love when you are constantly on the receiving end. It's harder to walk away from a toxic relationship when the man is the one paying your bills. You choose more clearly when his money is not calling the shots.

Again, don't get me wrong, giving is important. But nobody said you must be president of receivers association. On your birthday, you'll be expecting Porsche. But on his birthday, you even collect money from him again and buy two Okrika singlets for him. Sister how far nah? And I'm not saying you must be a billionaire right now (even though there's nothing wrong with that).

It's all about a mindset. You are a blessing, not a burden. He should be free to tell you he's got a great financial blessing without wondering what new strategy you'll use to finish the money. Marriage amplifies who you really are. A parasitic single lady will be a hole in her husband's pocket, never allowing anything to stay. A lazy wife was a lazy spinster. A prayerless wife was a prayerless single lady. 

Like my mum will say, “if he's the breadwinner, what stops you from being the Akara winner? Wouldn't that be a delicious combo?

Also, there's nothing wrong with being hard to get, as long as you are still gracious in your words and actions, but the real problem is when you're hard to keep. As you are making 'yanga' for him, make sure you're worth the stress.

Don't deliberately act in terrible and arrogant manners to see if he will keep loving you, saying "if he loves me, he'll cope with it" he is not Jesus and it's not anointing oil that flows in his veins, he can get tired and package his anointed love and proposal and shove it up his sleeves. 

There's a limit to endurance, forget all those Palestinian movies and Telemundo deception of love. I'm not saying be perfect, I'm saying be willing to grow, change, adjust. A bad attitude is not your inborn talent, you can change. While it's hard to get you, it should be easy to love you.

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