DIFFERENCE BETWEEN A BOYFRIEND AND A BESTIE

You want to know who an OFFICIAL BOYFRIEND is? He’s the idiot who pays the bills, shows the most love, and gets pinned with the unwanted pregnancy. He’s simply the guy put on reserve to bear the burdens imposed by those other ones they call BESTIES. And you want to know who a BESTIE is??? He’s the smart guy who reaps what the official boyfriend sows, loves less, and is usually the father of the unwanted child that gets pinned on the official boyfriend.

And all the while, the official boyfriend will be gushing over her on Facebook, posting her pictures on Instagram with FIRE EMOJIs to express his blazing hot love for her, and forming ROMEO on almost every WhatsApp status. When she wants to naughtily indulge in unadvised sinful pleasures, she beckons on the BESTIE(S) since it is expedient of her to be chaste. Even when chastity isn’t an expectation, she still beckons on BESTIE(S) for such adventures.

But when she wants to rehearse wifey roles and impose responsibilities, she goes to the official boyfriend who has been cajoled to feel so loved, adored, preferred, and responsible for her everyday need in order to prove his manhood. An official boyfriend pays the price to be afforded the privileges that a bestie gets as an inherited entitlement.

All the secrets, little talks, true character, flaws, and just about everything that fuels intimacy are bared before a bestie in all confidence. But the official boyfriend only knows as much as she wants him to know, which usually shows her off as being an ANGEL to reckon with.

Sometimes, this could be a calculated attempt at DECEIT. But most times, she withholds those info from him in fear of scaring him away with them. What they don’t know is that those details foster the bond they so crave. So you see that a girl finds herself in a mess and is more comfortable discussing it with a bestie than a boyfriend. Ever wondered why?


She shares something more intimate with the bestie than the boyfriend who is just there asking and answering questions like; “Have you eaten? How was your day? How are your parents and siblings? You know I love you, don’t you? I can cross seven seas for you. I can even take a bullet for you. How much money do you need this time?” Blah-blah-blah…

Meanwhile, discussions with a bestie are like; “You sef! So you did that thing again abi? After you’ll be carrying that your face as if you don’t know something. Haha. I’m hungry oh, and I don’t even have a dime on me. Abeg help me with small money mek I chop. How is your boyfriend sef? Hope he’s taking care of you o? He better do so because I don’t like it when you’re not cared for. Shebi you know that I care? Oya come over to the house let me show you.”

Between a girl and an official boyfriend, there’s pretense, secrets, lies, deceit, etc. (could be for the right or wrong reasons). But between a girl and a bestie, there are no secrets, no pretense, no lies, and no deceit. It’s the true definition of FRIENDSHIP which should be the FOUNDATION of a girl’s affair with a boyfriend. A bestie knows the ins/outs of a girl. But an official boyfriend only knows what makes the girl unique and worthy to be his girlfriend.

However, these besties are scarcely willing to COMMIT to an official affair like the official boyfriends do. The bestie is preferred but unavailable. The official boyfriend is the available guy who became preferred based on his availability. Trust me, you don’t want to be that guy. So, before you go official, start off as a bestie. It’s more likely to foster a more solid bond than when you start off with love lines from Jesusboy’s award winning romance novel, “OGECHI & I.” It’s important though. But you should save that or later.

In conclusion, if you’ve noticed that you’re in the shoes of an official boyfriend, convert to a bestie ASAP!!! The rewards are boundless!!! Don’t just sit there like a figurehead who does nothing more than pay bills and shoulder responsibilities. Be a friend!!! Get to know herl!!! Question her and force answers out of her!!! Find out the dirty secrets she fears to tell you, recite them to her, and make her know you cherish her nonetheless and her secrets are safe with you.

When you do so, she’ll loosen up and grant you unrestricted access to her world, and you’ll become both a bestie and an official boyfriend (a better position than that of an official boyfriend alone). Again, you will have an upper hand over those other bloody besties. Just like GLO, you must always endeavor to RULE YOUR WORLD!!! If you don’t, someone else will, and you will be paying tax to that person. BE WISE!!!

If after all said and done, you notice she can’t seem to make do with you as a bestie but can’t do without those other besties, she’s a promiscuous type. She only wants to keep you as her ATM and possibly pin one her bestie’s pregnancy on you. When those besties finally ruin her life, she’ll try to use you to cover up the loopholes and make it look like her miserable life had always been on track. So what do you do? Drop her like a bad habit and leave the rest for her village people. Thank you!!!