EXPENSIVE MISTAKES THAT ARE QUITE AFFORDABLE (SINGLE MOTHERHOOD)

Yesterday I got together with some brainy guys and we had some deep talks about life which centered on FAMILY, ROMANCE, and of course, MARRIAGE. It started out with romance, but that was just a means to an end. Even if the romance talk were to be the main point of the discourse, I seriously don’t think I would bring myself to sit and type it out, not to mention baring it here, as the details are nothing short of embarrassingly hilarious; to say the least.

FAMILY was the whole essence of our talk. But the subject I wish to highlight in this piece is the MARRIAGE part which wasn’t the conventional marriage talk. We deliberated on people’s habit of considering certain people unworthy of a commitment like marriage on account of their past mistake or mistakes. As a matter of fact, we were particular about single motherhood after the question of “marrying a single mom” came up.

Over time, a big NO has always been the answer to this question. But on carefully examining the reason behind guys’ refusal to settle with single moms, it became clear that some avoid it in order not to have another man’s child cause havoc in their family. Some avoid it to keep from repeating their parent’s mistake. Some simply avoid it just so they don’t get regarded as the husband of a single mom, which in their opinion, can rub dust on their person. Seriously?


All these reasons are shallow and result from cowardice, ignorance, pride, narcissism, and an inflated idea of self-importance. It will interest us to know that the illegitimate child we think would cause havoc in the family can end up being the pride of that family. Again, the single mom we think would possibly rob dirt on our reputation could be the spring to catapult us into global relevance, such that we never imagined.

About preventing a repeat of parents’ mistake, you must really understand that single motherhood is only a product of a mistake, not the mistake itself. So, what we should be looking at avoiding is not “marriage to a single mother.” We should be more concerned about avoiding the mistake, which can have a thousand unlikely outcomes, single motherhood being just one of them. This mistake can be just about anything!!!

That aside, have you ever taken out time to imagine it was you in their shoes? What if you were the single mom who got carried away by the deceitful words and empty promises of an ugly nice guy? Even if it was a deliberate act of pleasure that resulted in an unlikely outcome, and so bloody what? People make mistakes every now and then. And when they do, they look to others to help them correct their mistakes; if they can hardly do it by themselves.

Wouldn’t it be an honorable thing to contribute to the rewriting of the script of someone’s life for the better? Wouldn’t it be so fulfilling to step into someone’s life and make every possible mistake they had made to disappear forever, such that not even the devil can see the mistake anymore? (because it is actually not there again; all thanks to you).

People who think so highly of themselves that they refuse to identify with others by reason of their mistakes in life, often make the worst of mistakes, which could sometimes be irredeemable. If you find yourself in a position where you can wipe off the mistake of another, never hold back due to pride, haughtiness, delusional self-importance, and a feeling of personal worth. Remember that without God, we are nothing!!!

In conclusion, there are lots of expensive mistakes people make in life, but these mistakes are quite affordable. Maybe you’re so rich in personality because you’re meant to buy off such expensive mistakes. Think of how failing it will be if you shy away from doing that because you can’t bring yourself to condescend to help a seemingly vulnerable fellow. Remember, it could have been you in their shoes. Also remember, no one knows tomorrow.

This piece is particular about single motherhood, but not limited to that. Situations that put people in a seemingly vulnerable or disadvantaged position are numerous. Just remember that no matter how expensive or costly a mistake is, there are people out there who can afford them, and one of those people could be you. I rest my case!!!