LOVE LANGUAGE: AN IMPORTANT SELF-DISCOVERY THAT SHOULD INFORM YOUR CHOICE OF A SPOUSE (2)

WORDS OF AFFIRMATION

We’ve heard complaints from lots of embattled couples about how one party starves the other of good conversation. I once watched a wife complain on a reality TV show about her husband not calling her sweet names like he used to before they got married. She added that strange guys out there are in the habit of showering her with compliments and filling her ears with sweet talks; a thing her husband had ceased doing but she eagerly yearns for.

Even when her husband tried explaining how much he loves her, she told him she’d rather hear him recite love lines to her than prove his love by actions. Ladies and gents, that’s a lady whose love language is WORDS OF AFFIRMATION. There are guys like that too. If you must love these sets of people successfully, you’ve got to be a TALKER. If you’re not given to words, please, stay clear from them, else, a strange talker will do the job and reap the benefits.

QUALITY TIME

Some people just love to have their partner around them for a long-long-long time. They have the “together” mindset. Whether you’re with them doing something or doing nothing, it doesn’t matter. A mere being around them is enough to convince them of the supposed unconditional love you have for them.

Now, if you’re the “Johnny Waka” type who can hardly seat your butt down in one place for long, I suggest you keep a distance from these time consumers. Even if you must tour the world, be sure to take them along with you or get them to go with you. Anything short of giving these people good quality time is far from really seeming like love to them.

RECEIVING GIFTS

Hurray!!! Please don’t be quick to tag these people “pests and parasites.” The truth is that they lit up like a million stars when a gift (no matter how great or little) is given to them. If you wrong these sets of people, all you need to appease them is a piece of gift.

Take for instance surprising an extroverted fashion-loving partner with a piece of nice necklace or bracelet after having a fight with them. Do you have any idea what that will do to them??? Like I said, they’ll lit up like a million stars at such surprise and forgive you before you even ask for it. But never take advantage of this!!!

And if you have a problem gifting gifts, believe me, there are those who don’t freaking care about gifts!!! They’d rather have you make up for blunders by rendering some acts of service to them, which brings us to the next love language.

ACTS OF SERVICE

Okay. Forget what I said earlier about these people virtually turning you into a houseboy/maid. It’s not exactly like that. But these people feel loved when their partner helps them out with tasks or ultimately relieves them of tasks. You find them doing some chores and you step in and relieve them while they sit back and watch??? Trust me, you’re the love of their life!!!

But we all know that not everyone is given to being of service to other people. If you happen to be one of such people, then those whose love language is ACTS OF SERVICE should not make the list your potential spouse.

PHYSICAL TOUCH

Isn’t it strange that merely holding someone by the hand or making random physical contact with them can make them feel so loved??? Like, instead of sweet talking them, spending too much time with them, giving them gifts, or serving them, you just touch them and they feel loved??? Yes!!! Such people exist!!!

These people don’t want your hands off them, else, you don’t love them. Whether in public or privately, they want to be touched!!! They want you to hold them by hands or something of that sort. Just don’t leave them to themselves. So, if you’re too shy or reserved to pull off such stunts, you better find your level. Lol.

So, you can see that pleasing a partner can be a walkover if the necessary knowledge is acquired. As it has to do with love language, you must only settle for someone whose love language you can speak. On the flip side, you must be sure that this person can likewise speak your love language.

Before you conclude on making anyone your partner, get to find out his/her love language. You can only find out another person’s love language if you’ve discovered yours. So, have you discovered you love language??? If not, this form here will help you find it out. Just provide accurate answers to the questions in the form.

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